I have been publishing a Free Personal Development Ezine for the last couple of years – every Monday and Wednesday, videos and articles – and from the feedback that I get I’ve come to the conclusion that there’s an awful lot of guys and girls out there who moan about their lives, who don’t realize that they need to take the appropriate action to change. Most people are unhappy in their job but just keep soldiering on. The normal mind is numbed by the routine of daily living. Plenty of people are in unsatisfactory relationships. And, of course, most people are unhappy with themselves – their body, weight, lack of assertiveness, low self-esteem, overeating, under-eating, fitness… But what they all – and chances are that this includes you – don’t understand is that everything could change effortlessly if they just pulled themselves together and started to pay attention.
Yeah, that’s what I said – just like what the teacher told you in nursery school! Psychology confirms that your happiness and success is correlated to how well you pay attention. That sounds crazy – but just think about it. People who are successful are more focused – and focus simply means paying attention. Presence is the key attribute of success – successful people have presence – and that just means that such people are more attentive to the present. Or, in plain English, successful people take the trouble to turn up to their own lives! They pay attention to the here and now – they apply their complete attention.
Compare this with the ordinary person who, research concludes, is missing in action! The normal mind is, to quote an Irish expression, ‘not all there’ – you’re all over the shop. Your normal mind is focused on your ‘stored knowledge’ – what you learned in your formative years. Your normal mind couldn’t care less about what’s actually happening now and that’s why normal people are firmly strapped onto the daily sorry-go-round!
You need to pay attention, focus, get your head in gear. And, in actual fact, it’s no big deal if you don’t know what you want out of life (how many of us are?!) – what’s most important is that you pay attention to what’s happening right now – you never know what opportunities you might spot (which you caannot spot if you’re not all there!). Paying attention is about the here and now. Paying attention is about doing what you’re supposed to be doing without focusing on your self-sabotaging beliefs (from ‘I don’t like my job’ to ‘I don’t like me’). Paying attention is down to being present, having presence and getting into life’s flow.
Hasn’t it occurred to you that all the great things that have ever taken place in your life (yeah, even if you’re a desperate person, some good stuff happened at some stage in your life) happened spontaneously? You can turn back on life’s spontaneity, all you need to do is turn up to the reality of life – in this present moment – pay attention to what’s actually happening, not what your sad, ordinary mind would convince you is going on.
Tags: Achieve Success, Be a Success, Be Happy, Low Self Esteem, Success Happiness
Comments are closed.